Wednesday, May 25, 2016

Parshat Emor 2016/5776: Traditional Prayer & Inspired Spontaneous Prayer - Not Mutually Exclusive

It is always a privilege to share a service together with members of our community and with guests, to pray, schmooze, read and reflect, to study, question and sing.

And in this holy space, when we gather for services, there’s a critique I have heard time and again, a critique that I would like to put to rest today, or at least try to put to rest today.

The critique is that our Jewish tradition provides a rigid and consistent set of prayers for us to say.  Week in and week out, we recite the same words as a community.  Except for some seasonal and holiday variations, the Amidah is the same, the Shema is always the same, Alenu, the Kaddishes – all the same.

And all these are the same when we are not the same from day to day, from month to month.  Can we recite the prayer Mechayey ha’metim, the 2nd blessing in the Amidah, the prayer praising God as the one who gives life to the dead, when we’ve just lost a loved one or friend?  The Shema, the prayer of heavenly unity, may feel strange to say if we feel scattered or lost in life…

We are looking for opportunities to infuse our prayers and Jewish experiences with what is unique to who we are, with what we may feel in the moment – joy, sadness, anger, uncertainty…And it may feel as though the mat’be’ah, the traditional sequence of prayers, does not permit us the mental and soul-space to commune with where we are right now, in this moment, with what we want to say, or shout, or say through our tears as they fall.

The beauty that we find in the Siddur, in our services, is the chance to achieve both goals – to be a part of a community in prayer, to sing in unison, and find comfort and familiarity in the prayers of our tradition.  And we also have the chance to pray from the inside out, to reach out with our own words, our own perspective, our own emotional response even as others may continue on with the prescribed order of psalms, poems, and blessings.

Our parsha today, parshat Emor, offers a holiday schedule:  Pesach, Shavuot, Sukkot, a celebration the first day of the 7th month, Yom Kippur, Sukkot, and this begins with God’s instruction, “Eleh mo’adey Ado-nai…asher tik’re’uh otam be’mo’a’dam.”(23:4)  These are God’s festivals…that you will call at their appropriate times.

If God has set the timing for the festivals, than what need is there for us to call them, to proclaim them? 

Ramban explains God is specifying these specific holy days, as if to say, “It’s these holy days that I want you to observe.  And if you don’t treat them as holy days, then they won’t be My holy days.”

What’s important here is not just that we observe holy days at the appropriate time, but that we infuse these days with a spirit of joyfulness, thoughtfulness, meaning and relevancy to our soul and spirit during the course of the seasons – as the weather shifts, as our moods and lives shift in response to blessings, losses, searching, boredom, excitement, the whole range of human experience.

The same is true with our prayers.  We do have a set of prayers we recite, laid out in an intentional sequence just like our holy days, but, like the holy days, our traditional prayers can only help us bring out our true voices, can only help us feel connected and like we’re speaking sincerely and personally if we infuse our prayer moments with all that we’re thinking and carrying with us, through the lens of who each of us is today.

I’d like to share 2 short stories about how different communities encourage self-expression within the framework of a traditional prayer service.

The first is Kehillat Mayanot, a Masorti-Conservative minyan that meets in the Bakaa neighborhood of Jerusalem.  At Mayanot, I experienced for the first time the way members of the community would raise a hand and ask a question or offer a comment during a dvar Torah.  I was so used to sitting in rapt silence, but found this a refreshing way of staying involved and, well, awake to what the speaker was teaching.

The second is Mt. Bethel Baptist Church in Ridgewood, New Jersey.  I had the privilege on several occasions of joining Reverend Johnson and his congregation for a service, and during their songs people cry out, call out, and harmonize.  When the Pastor speaks people call out like it’s a pep rally, calling out their support, their encouragement, their feelings of pure praise and glory.

Whether in silent reflection, in conversation, or in clapping, singing, and joyful noise, our traditional prayers and our self-expression are not mutually exclusive here in this holy space.  Prayer is avodat ha’lev, the work of the heart, and we can allow our ancient prayers to well up inside us and seek their wisdom to relate and react to where we are today, and we can allow our souls to soar on the energy of our emotions and the thoughts that mysteriously open up in our minds as we explore them to find their source.

And so may the words of our mouths and the meditations of our hearts be acceptable to You, Ado-nai, shome’ah tefilah, the One who Hears Prayers, prayers from the book and from the heart, and also the prayers that leap forth from the spaces in between us when we talk to each other and pray together.






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