Friday, July 29, 2016

Dvar Torah: Balak 5776/2016: Great Expectations

Our expectations help to define our experiences, and in the big picture, our lives.

I want to share a story that reinforces this idea -- the story of a man, who will remain nameless, a man who was living down in Florida and noticed a store front that advertised ‘$100 cruise vacation’.  What a great deal.  He walked in and asked if the offer on the storefront was real.  The clerk behind the desk said it surely was real.  The man handed over the one hundred dollars and asked when the cruise vacation would depart – the clerk said, right now if you’re ready, please step through this way.  He crossed through the main desk and as he did the clerk took a baseball bat and knocked him on the head.  When he regained consciousness, he found himself floating on the ocean, in an inner tube, floating out there in the middle of the wide ocean.  He looked around and noticed someone else floating in an inner tube – he paddled over there and called out to the other, “Hey over there, do they serve a dinner on this trip?”  The other called out, “They didn’t last year.”

This story reminds us to be wary of our assumptions and of our expectations.  What seems like a good deal at first can quickly turn out to be anything but a good deal.  It is of course ridiculous to think that a full-fledged cruise vacation could ever cost $100, but we also know from recent history that even full-priced cruises are subject to Noro Virus, engine failure, and, in the case of the Costa Concordia and others, can be even worse tragedies. 

And expectations at full-price set the stage this week when King Balak, King of Mo’av, brings out Bil’am the magician to curse the people of Israel.  Mo’av fears the Israelites will rout them as they did to the Amorites, and Balak supposes Bil’am may be able to prevent the disaster.  In our reading today, we chanted the third and final oracle Bil’am speaks regarding the Israelites, and it includes the familiar words Ma tovu ohalecha Yakov mishkenotecha Yisrael – How beautiful are your tents O, Jacob, your dwelling places O Israel. 

While later Jewish tradition paints Bilam as an evil sorcerer (kind of like Aladdin’s Jafar), and later Jewish tradition demonstrates that his words, however they sound, show evil intent, it’s pretty clear here that he’s offered now, for the third time, abundant blessings to Israel rather than curses.

The Or Ha’chayim, Rabbi Chaim ben Moshe Attar, tries to explain that Bilam’s blessings really are curses but Balak simply cannot hear the curses in the nicely phrased poetic words.  With due respect to the Sages, the point of the story here is to show the divergence between what Balak expected and what Bilam actually did.

Balak says to him, “I called you to curse my enemies and instead you have blessed them three times over!” (Numbers 24:10)

Bil’am frustrated Balak’s expectations, not once, nor twice, but three times over.

Think about a time when each of us has faced a similar dilemma.  We take a car to get repaired, and then either the repair itself fails or something else breaks down soon after compelling us to return to the body shop.  Or more poignant for us, when we receive news about a health test or diagnosis – what do we hope to hear?  Can we ever be prepared for bad news?   Why is it that people may even struggle with hearing good news when fully expecting the opposite?

I recently heard from a hopeful parent – she and her husband had been for many years seeking to adopt a child, and were prepared and ready to adopt this summer when they learned just yesterday that the birth mother decided to keep the child instead of giving the child up for adoption.

During this election season we are subject to candidates and parties who raise our expectations.  We often hear, “On my first day in office I will…” and fill in the blank.  We all know that legislative priorities are important but that creating and guiding legislation through the democratic process often takes longer and involves compromise. 

Still, we must always strive to meet high expectations with the best of ourselves.  God asks us in the wilderness to take upon ourselves laws and practices that are neither easy nor convenient, especially for people on the move.  God does this knowing that once we settle in the Holy Land we will likely get too settled, too comfortable and the urgency of nation-building and the first exciting part of the journey, the honeymoon period, will end and we will regress. 

In fact, in the same parsha we read today the people regressed the moment after Bilam praised the people and showed how we would triumph over our enemies.  It turns out the “enemy” is within – we might one day overcome Amalek and Kenites, but the danger of falling back on old patterns, of looking to other gods to worship, statues, local deities, idols – all these easily accessible divinities are easy and less demanding than the invisible God of the universe who not only asks for our faith and trust, but also for us to live a life of justice and compassion.  As we’ve seen in bloody reality lately, this demand is tragically flouted by many religious extremists.

But to ask a significant amount from the people then and now is the only way to encourage us to strive, to stretch and to grow. 

And what better time to re-emphasize this message than as the 3 weeks leading to Tisha B’Av get started this Sunday with our observance Sunday of the Shivah Asar B’Tamuz fast, the fast that recalls the sieges of Jerusalem that led to the destruction of both Temples, destructions that our tradition remembers not as the result of overwhelming enemy force but as the result of our people not striving earnestly enough to live up to one of the most significant and central expectations God sets for us – Ve’ahavta li’re’acha kamocha, you shall care for your fellow human being as yourself.

And, of course, we should never purchase a $100 cruise vacation.

Shabbat Shalom.






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